The essentials as we’ll call them, are what you need to work on in order to be successful with women. No “game” or lines are needed. In fact, you’ll likely find when you work on the essentials, your social life and career take off as well.

The essentials consist of 6 things,


This is arguably one of the biggest attraction builders when it comes to meeting women. This is something that regardless of your race, height, amount of hairs of your head(or lack thereof) that you CAN change. There is absolutely no reason whatsoever to be out of shape. With some good nutrition, and a solid workout plan, you’ll be well on your way to that dream build. There’s tons of reasons to of get in shape.


Having good style will help compliment your new physique. Nothing turns women off more than men who dress poorly. Now you don’t need to spend an arm and leg, but a having a few nice additions to your wardrobe can go a long way. It’s also important to avoid fashion faux pas (socks/sandals and golf shirt/gym shorts, just to name a few)


This includes several things. For example, not having back hairs and chest hairs popping out of your shirt. You don’t have nose hairs down to your chin. You smell like you’ve freshened up within the last decade. No ear wax build up. I could go on……


This is about only thing the pickup community gets right. So what is confidence? It’s “a belief in one’s self”. True confidence in my opinion is, “believing in yourself even when no one else does”. Confidence however, is not to be confused with arrogance, egotism, or narcissism. Ever notice how people really good at something tend to be very modest? They know they’re good. There’s no need for them to brag. It’s improvements you make in your life that make you more confident.


You have something going on in your life other than chasing women. You have some type of hobby. It doesn’t have to be anything too crazy. It could be the gym. It could be a sport. It could be music. Perhaps you play in a band and do a few shows on the weekend. It could be drawing. Just have something else you’re passionate about other than her.


Money obviously plays a big factor in things as well. Just as with looks, all things being equal, a guy better off financially will likely do better with women. The guy in better financial shape can offer women experiences and security guys in worse financial shape can not. That being said, don’t think you need to be rolling in the dough to have women interested in you. The big tip here is to be financially responsible. If your career doesn’t pay super well, but you love what you do, that’s fine. Just make sure you’re sensible with your money. Don’t get into massive debt or act like a “big spender” to impress her. Also, a man who may not be in great financial shape right now, but is working hard on it will also be quite attractive to women.

If you work on these 6 things, you’ll do just fine with women ;)



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